🤗 The Accountability Mirror🤗

I remember reading this for the first time and being like “Dang David! You didn’t have to come at me like dat!”

Buuuut...

He is 1000% right!

If you tryna do something big, i. e. accomplish great things and/or create an impact, and you’re not getting results or making the milestones toward your goal, then it’s time to take a looooooong look in the mirror and deal with some stuff. 

Connect with some people that will hold you accountable and give you courage to do big things. 

Simply put…

Clear the cobwebs out yo mind and spirit that keeping you from gettin the bag 💰 

If you're really trying to reach some crazy, scary, I can't believe I'm even thinking about this, kinda goals, I encourage you to get Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins

🥺Push. Past. Pain.🥺

 It really is all in your head. 

One thing I’m know I’m really good at is suffering😂but any success I’ve had in life has been because I pushed past pain (try saying that 5x fast😆) and I was relentless in achieving my desired outcome.  

After all, I raised a whole human for God’s sake! I don’t mind telling you that she is an amazing and fantastic human with the biggest heart I’ve ever known. I can’t take all the credit tho… I had a little help from the Almighty🙏🏽

It takes courage to put your trust in God! For me, that’s the pushing past the 40% that David is talking about in his book, Can’t Hurt Me. Anyone can push up until it hurts. But it takes a whisper in your soul to make you take action and push past pain to get to where you wanna go. It’s the mind, soul and spirit vs. the brain for me. 

Your brain is there to protect you. But your mind, soul and spirit will take you where you want to go❣️🧠🧐🙏🏽🤗

🎶if at first you don’t succeed…🎶

Shout out to Aaliyah when she told us to dust ourselves off and try again❣️ RIP 

You know I’ve been having a lot of conversations about health and wellness and taking care of your mind, body and soul. Some of us seem to think that it’s got to be all or nothing. 

NEWSFLASH 📰 

‘ALL IN’ doesn’t mean all or nothing. 

It means betting on you for positive change! 

All or nothing is the biggest misconception about the journey to getting healthier that I have ever heard. Like anything in life that you’re learning for the first time, there’s a process involved. 

Maybe you have to write it down several times so you remember new information. 

Maybe you have to hear it multiple times for you to understand the value of it. 

Nevertheless, it is a process that is meant to be embraced, a process for good change to happen in any area of your life. Whether it’s a new job, new motherhood, a new relationship…whatever it is…you have to learn it and practice it to be good at it. 

Would you throw your kid away the first time you made a mistake? 

Would you quit your job after the first day because you didn’t learn everything in one day? 

Would you stop seeing someone after the first date because they ate their salad with the wrong fork? 

No you wouldn’t! 

So why would you give up on YOU because the first day, the first week or the first month of learning what it is to take care of yourself for the first time doesn’t go as planned? 

It’s a process. 

Embrace it! 

Give yourself some time. 

Give yourself some grace! 

You won’t learn everything in one day just like you won’t lose 100 pounds in one day… it’s a process… one day at a time, one lesson at a time, one pound at a time, one meal at a time. 

REAL TALK 

Whenever you’re trying to do something good, the enemy will rear its ugly head and try to throw a monkey wrench in your plans. 

If you know what I’m talking about, holla at ya girl! 

You gotta be better than the enemy and stronger than the enemy and have a little bit more faith in your Creator to get up when you’re knocked down and try again. 

This week is an opportunity to try again. Since the Lord blessed you to wake up this morning, what are you going to do with the new opportunities to TRY AGAIN this week?

When you have checked all the boxes...

You got good grades in school. You were a good girl and didn’t make any trouble.You did your best to be the perfect girlfriend. You had a moment of rebellion just to try to fit in. You met the man of your dreams and vowed to be everything he ever needed. You became a mother and swore to be the best mother God gave you the strength and power to be. You went college and earned an advanced degree. You went out to work in a world that demanded more than your best time and time again and you always and consistently delivered. You didn’t need anybody’s help. You got this!

For all your hard work 😓 you:

Still got rejected by your parents.

Still wasn’t what he wanted.

Still was the last to be invited to the party.

Still got bamboozled by the husband.

Still fell short as a parent.

Still got taken advantage of in exchange for your good will at work.

Still wasn’t smart enough.

Still wasn’t good enough.

For all your effort, you realize you ain’t got this!

Don’t you deserve better? 

Don’t you deserve to live a life full of wellbeing and purpose?

Don’t you deserve to know love and peace in a way that surpasses all understanding?

Don’t you deserve to have more, do more, be more?

Don’t you deserve to enjoy good health, be financially fit and renew your mind to the highest esteem?

You can! Starting today! In order to have more you have to be more so you can do more. You have that power. It all starts with a desire and a decision to create change that creates focus and determination to go where you want to go and be who you want to be.

I know it’s a big decision. Bigger than the decision to get married, have kids, go back to school or even accept an offer for a job. Keep in mind, all those decisions were made in fear.  Fear of your biological clock. Fear of being rejected. Fear of failure. Fear he wouldn’t love me. Fear she wouldn’t respect me. Fear of being alone. Fear of (fill in the blank) How about we change the narrative? How about we start stepping out on FAITH!?!

Why not change the thoughts in our mind to know and accept that anything is possible with God?  How about we write some crazy, awesome dreams down on paper and take them to God in prayer? How about having some hope for something more than just checking the boxes of what the world expects of you?

What if you did that and changed your life in such an amazing way that you won’t even recognize the life you left behind? If fear was no object and faith took its place, what could your life look like in 5 years?

SOUL CRY

 Have you ever needed to have a gut wrenching, crying out to God SOB? 

Today was one of those days for me.  I had just fallen AGAIN and I got up quick enough to get the rest of the groceries back in the house and then....I let it all hang out. I didn’t even know I needed to get that soul breaking cry out but before I knew it, it was happening! It was one of those cries where you can't even make the sounds you just...your soul is crying out to your Creator. Crying out for your body to function like it should.  Crying out so you can do and execute like you know you should but you can't make your mind and skill work for you.  You’re stuck! Crying out for the faith to overcome the fear that builds inside you daily and rears its ugly head when your heart wants to execute like your life depends on it. Crying, sobbing, begging for God to take over because YOU CAN’T anymore...not without HIM.

 

Sometimes in our lives the shift that you desperately want to happen doesn’t because your pride or toxic positivity (yeah, I said that!) doesn’t allow you the cleansing cry you need to achieve clarity. Be real when you get on your knees. He knows your heart anyway. That will make you bawl, for real!

Let’s be very clear. Your pride will have you thinking that crying is punking out and a distraction from what you need to be doing. But if you’re stuck and not making any progress toward your goals, it is likely that your fear is taking over and you don’t truly believe that what you have to offer the world really makes a difference. Toxic positivity is telling you that the little you are doing is baby steps in the right direction and you might be listening to other people telling you the same thing.  But you and I both know its not nearly enough to make significant progress on your goals. When this happens, you might need a cleansing cry...one that I like to call a soul cry.

My soul cry today gave me clarity and frankly, the willingness to surrender my goals and dreams to God. I know He is going to let me know exactly where I am coming up short and where I need to lean in.  I know that I have to choose faith, put my trust in Him and trust the process.  

I have a renewed passion now. I know that I have to do the work to do the work. What does that mean? I have to create a plan and reverse engineer how to get there. This is something that needs to be done every day. With the help of my Creator, I know that I have the strength, courage and discipline to get the job done.

What area of your life do you need to have a soul cry about?

Self doubt to self audit

 

I used to be so overwhelmed with self-doubt that often I wondered if I could do anything right. Whether it was struggling with my weight, my relationships, at work or business, I never felt good enough and so I often struggled with meeting my goals. 

 

I became so frustrated I said to myself, “something’s gotta give”. I started to pray. I started looking for ways that I could overcome these problem areas in my life. I started researching these different areas and see if there was any insight into how I could turn these things around. 

 

Eventually what I found was that I needed to conduct a self audit.  It looked a little something like this:

 

🤔Was I doing the work necessary to get results in these different areas of my life where I was having the most difficulty? 

 

🤔Was I following a meal plan and exercising to reach my health goals?  

 

🤔Was I trying to find common ground with people I work with so that we can have a more collaborative relationship rather than a combative relationship?  

 

🤔Was I talking about and promoting my ideas for new business ventures in a way that made people want to invest in new products or services? 

 

When I realized that I was coming up short, it was time to start soul searching. It was time to start crafting a plan for every area of my life where I wanted to see significant improvement. It was time to start crafting a plan for success.  

I began to take control of my life. I began putting things in action. Then I started to get the results I wanted. I recognized that I had the power to manifest my dreams into reality. I took ownership and things started to turn around. 

This process is simple but never easy. It is a renewed commitment you have to make every day to move the needle forward in your life. If I could do it I know that you can. You have that power. Never surrender it to someone or something else. 🤗

God wants what you have left

Even when you think you have lost everything, God will use what you have left to create miracles in your life 

What this says to me is:

🙌🏾You have to start where you are to get where you want to go. 

🙌🏾You gotta start messy and continue until get a flow going. 

🙌🏾You gotta keep going until you start setting the example. 

🙌🏾You gotta set the example until others want to follow. 

🙌🏾You gotta have others follow so you can start building community. 

🙌🏾You gotta build community so people start talking about that joy they found in that thing they are doing

🙌🏾You gotta have people talking so much that they build their own community around this here good thing

🙌🏾And you keep going until He pours down a blessing in the form of LEGACY until you hear the words, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”

Just think...This all starts from what you have left...

Coping in a challenging and quickly more transparent world

Many good, God-fearing people have been asking questions like, “How can I help”, Where can I donate? What can I do? I’m only one person!” 

Well, I have answers! You can help your child learn RIGHT from WRONG just like you teach them manners. You can DONATE time to your child’s upbringing and be in control of what they are exposed to including but not limited to what they watch on TV, what they are seeing on the internet and the company they keep. Guide h/her thinking to not judge people by the color of their skin but the content of their character. You have to be a living breathing example of what you claim you want to help, donate and do in the world and pass that down to your kids. This is how you can help. This is how you can donate. This what you do! 

We won’t end centuries of nurtured and cultivated racism overnight and we shouldn’t expect widespread forgiveness overnight.

Taking Action is the force that engenders confidence!

I have noticed that whenever I have to do or learn something new or trying to make a positive change in my life, I will stare at it for a long time before I start get started. I will procrastinate and get in my own head and spend a lot of time wondering if I will be successful at this new thing. Will I learn what I need to learn in order to implement it effectively in my own life? Will I get it right? What if I fail? Blah, blaah, blah…Intellectually, I know better, but I still have moments where I serious doubt myself.

In my business, one of the things that you have to do, is engage in personal development. This basically means that if I have areas of my life where I know I need improvement, I need to invest in tools, resources and time to improve in those areas so I can be more effective to the people I am trying to serve. One of the primary areas of my life that needed improvement was my health. The truth is, when I finally plugged into the resources that I knew would help me reach my goals, I had to stop asking questions that only served to fill me with more doubt and DO ME! Whatever that is, I just needed to be true to myself. During my journey, I had to realize that living a healthy lifestyle is not perfect. I am going to backslide. I am going to have that piece of cake at a birthday party or enjoy ribs at a barbeque. And you know what? That’s okay! I still managed to realize a lot of success and definitely more than everyone else sitting on the couch!

The improvement in my overall health took place, first, in my mindset! I started asking better questions like, “What is it that I want to accomplish? “Lowering my blood pressure?” “How about my cholesterol?” “Could I be borderline diabetic?” “What needs to change in my diet that could help in all of these areas?” Maybe I just want to lose weight to improve my respiratory function so I can play with my kid.” These were definitely better questions I could ask myself that could help me live a healthy lifestyle. I realized that whatever my “WHY” was I needed to do it because I recognize the value of living a healthy lifestyle. I needed to do it because I know it will help me have a better quality of life…more energy, less constipation (haaaaaH) more stamina (aaaaaoooooowwwww!) I had the power within me to make the changes I need to make because I want to change for the better more than I want to stay the same. It’s definitely not about being perfect all the time! It’s about taking action every day to see the change I want to make in my life. It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks or says about what I am doing. I know I am doing a good thing for me. I am not competing with anyone outside of myself! I am only competing with the person I was yesterday. I AM DOING ME! DO YOU! As long as you are not intentionally hurting anyone else, do what makes you healthy and happy!

Resolve to Start Now

By now, another new year’s resolution to be healthy once and for all is all but forgotten and you have already given up. You’re thinking you’ve tried everything to be healthy and finally get to your goal weight and nothing is working. Why not just drink on the weekends, eat what’s not so great for me and enjoy life, right? But you are miserable and deep in your gut, you know there has got to be a better way. No matter what you are thinking about your progress so far, I'm here to tell you, it is not too late. Resolve to start now, TODAY, and learn how to do it different this time!

I have learned over the last several years that lack of peer support and the right tools are the missing links to why people don't succeed in leading a healthy lifestyle. The truth is, no one can do it alone. When I started my journey, I was 50 lbs overweight, aging and dealing with all of the issues associated with all of that. I needed help. So, I joined a group of people who were working out with me, supported me and held me accountable to my goals. It wasn’t easy but in a little over a year, I lost 35lbs, had more energy and felt better than I had in years. It was the soul of the accountability group that helped me achieve my health and wellness goals and now I want to pay it forward by helping you do the same.

Why spend $100s of dollars on personal trainers, nutritionists and gym memberships you don’t use? Do something that is more fun, gets results, you can do in the privacy of your own home (or take it with you) and WORKS!

I am about to start a 30 day Fierce and Fabulous Fit Camp soon that will be designed specifically for beginners and those who want to recharge their fitness journey. In this group, you will be provided with all the resources you need to begin your new healthy lifestyle without spending a fortune!

Your tool kit will include the following:

*Streaming workout programs designed for the beginner to the athlete led by a certified personal trainer

*A 30 day supply of superfood nutrition to help you power through your workouts

*A meal plan that guides you through healthy eating with meals that are delicious and simple to make

*Peer support led by yours truly in an online environment filled with people just like you who will begin this journey with you so you never have feel alone

This could be an amazing beginning to a fantastic lifestyle that you will never regret starting... like right now! LEARN MORE and get a free full presentation of what you can expect when you join a fit camp! Time is of the essence because we start tomorrow! So make the decision to START TODAY!

Turn Up Tuesday-How fitness geeks celebrate

Don’t you love a good success story? How do people turn their life around by focusing on their health? The discovery is nothing short of amazing when you find out that focusing on fitness improves other areas in your life. Well here is Briana’s story. Briana lost 53 lbs. using full, comprehensive programs that she did at home!

“I used to overeat every day and binge on junk food after a long day at work. I also hardly ever exercised. I had gained weight steadily over the past few years because of these bad habits. I was ashamed with how I looked in the mirror and clothes never fit me the way I wanted. I had lost self-love for myself and all confidence with the way I looked.

I was inspired to change my life and begin my transformation journey because I’ve always said I will look my best at 25 years old. So when I hit 24 I knew I needed to do something to get my body back in shape and lose the weight I had gained over the past few years. People around me that ate healthy and looked fit inspired me. I wanted to look like them and feel good again. I knew that if I made the effort to eat healthy and exercise that I could do it in a year.

I was inspired to change my life and begin my transformation journey

My greatest challenge I faced was staying committed to any type of program. But because of the motivation, support, and accountability that I received from my Coach, and people within the accountability groups online, I was able to stay on track.

Over the last year, I did a few different at-home programs which all incorporated a mixture of weight lifting/strength training and cardio - to reach my goal. I really liked this because you get the advantages of both types of exercise.

I have lost 53 pounds and upwards of 45 inches off my body. I am now strong enough to do push-ups, many bodyweight moves, and my heart is strong enough to endure intense cardio. But I am most proud that I am healthier, stronger, and happier than I have ever been in my entire life.”

Has this story inspired you to change your life? There are many ways to get started on your own transformation journey and I can help you along the way. I know the thought of doing something new is scary but what do you have to lose by starting today except never living out your true potential? You have to ask yourself, are you okay with that?

When Anxiety goes haywire!

This morning I woke up a little unsettled and wondered what was making my anxiety go haywire. I couldn't get into my routine. It seemed like it was taking me a really long time to get ready.

Then, I stepped back for a second and realized I needed to take a moment of gratitude for all that God has done, is doing and is going to do in my life. I had a roof over my head, a place to sleep, the lights were on, a car to drive and a job to go to. Once I did that, a sista straightened her crown and got on with her day thankful that she woke up and had a day to get on with.

What are you grateful for today?