Friday Reflections: Discernment Will Save Your Life

Listen…
Not every opportunity is a blessing.
Not every smiling face is a friend.
Not every "good vibe" is from God.

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned—and earned through some hard falls—is this:

👉🏽 Discernment will save your life.

Discernment is God’s way of protecting you before you need protection.
It’s that quiet nudge in your spirit.
It’s the uneasiness you can’t explain.
It’s the “something ain’t right” feeling that you sometimes try to pray away but shouldn’t.

And too many times, I overrode it.
I wanted to believe the best.
I didn’t want to seem “judgmental.”
I gave people or situations the benefit of the doubt when God had already shown me everything I needed to see.

"Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God..." – 1 John 4:1

The enemy doesn’t show up wearing a red cape and horns.
He shows up wrapped in charm, opportunity, "once-in-a-lifetime" offers, and people who say all the right things but live all the wrong ways.

Discernment is your spiritual alarm system.
It will protect your peace, your destiny, and your future—if you listen.

Now?
I pray for discernment DAILY.
And not just discernment—but the courage to act on what God shows me without second-guessing it.

Because obedience to that still small voice has saved me from relationships, deals, and decisions that would’ve wrecked me.

📝 Reflect:

• Have you ever ignored a warning sign because you wanted to believe the best?

• Are you praying for discernment—and listening when God answers?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

Lord, sharpen my discernment. Help me not to override Your warnings for the sake of comfort, appearances, or fear of missing out. Give me wisdom to see what I need to see and courage to walk away when You tell me to. Amen.

Friday Reflections: Delayed Does Not Mean Denied

Let’s talk about waiting.

Waiting on healing.
Waiting on the right person.
Waiting on the business to take off.
Waiting on doors to open when you’ve knocked and prayed and fasted and cried.

Whew. Waiting will test your faith like nothing else.

There were seasons where I thought the silence meant I’d been forgotten.
But God whispered something into my spirit that changed everything:

“Delayed does not mean denied.”

Sometimes, the delay is not punishment—it’s preparation.
God will withhold certain things until your character is ready to carry them. Until your mindset is healed enough to handle them. Until your heart won’t idolize the very thing you prayed for.

“The vision is for an appointed time... Though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not delay.” – Habakkuk 2:3

If He promised it, He’s going to do it.
But He’s more concerned about who you’re becoming in the waiting than how fast you get there.

The delay is refining you.
Strengthening your faith muscles.
Teaching you patience, trust, and endurance.
Because when it comes, it’s gon’ come big. And you’ll be ready.

📝 Reflect:

• Are you calling something “denied” when it’s just delayed?

• What is God teaching you during your waiting season?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

God, help me to trust Your timing even when it doesn’t make sense. Strengthen me in the waiting. Let me not grow weary or bitter, but hopeful and expectant. I know You don’t delay without purpose. Amen.

Friday Reflections: Closure Is an Inside Job

Whew. This one took me a minute to learn.

I used to sit around waiting on people to do right. Waiting for apologies. Waiting for closure. Waiting for someone to finally say,
"You're right, I hurt you. I'm sorry."

But here's what life—and God—taught me:
Closure is an inside job.
It’s not something you get. It’s something you decide.

Because truthfully? Some people will never own their role.
They’ll rewrite history.
They’ll twist the narrative.
They’ll ghost, deflect, or deny.
And you’ll be sitting there waiting on an apology…

That’s👏🏽 Never👏🏽 Coming👏🏽.

Meanwhile, God is saying, "I need you to move forward anyway."

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” – Isaiah 43:18–19

Waiting on closure from people who broke you is like trying to fix a leak with the same water that flooded you. It don’t work like that.

Real healing starts the moment you decide that their silence won’t keep you stuck.
You forgive for you.
You heal for you.
You move on in faith—because God has more for you ahead than what they failed to give you back there.

📝 Reflect:

• Are you still waiting for someone to say sorry so you can heal?

• What if healing is your responsibility, not theirs?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

God, help me release the need for closure from people who were never meant to go with me into this next season. Let me find peace in You, validation in You, and strength to move forward even when others refuse to make it right. Amen.

Shedding Old Health Narratives: 5 Prompts to Build a New Self-Image

Sometimes the biggest transformation doesn’t start in the gym or on your plate—it starts in your mind. If you've ever felt stuck in old patterns or believed the lie that “this is just the way I am,” it’s time to shed those outdated health narratives and start creating a new story—one that reflects your capacity for growth, healing, and powerful change.

We all carry internal scripts about who we are and what we're capable of. Many of these were formed years ago, based on experiences, failures, or the opinions of others. But what if you could rewrite those scripts with intention and truth? What if your identity wasn’t fixed—but evolving?

Here are 5 powerful journaling prompts to help you begin that shift and build a healthier, more empowered self-image:

✍🏽 1. Reflect on Change You’ve Already Made

Write about three times in your life when you successfully changed a habit, no matter how small.
Then ask yourself: What does this reveal about my capacity for change? You’ve done it before. You can do it again.

🧠 2. Define “Healthy” On Your Terms

What does "being a healthy person" mean to you?
List three healthy behaviors you already practice—even occasionally. You might be more aligned with wellness than you think.

📖 3. Examine the Old Story

What's the origin story of your belief that you "can't change" or "aren't healthy"?
Is this belief still serving you—or is it holding you hostage?

🔁 4. Reframe the Future

If you woke up tomorrow believing you are capable of health changes, what’s the first small action you'd take?
Visualize it. Write it. Then—live it.

Ready to Write Your New Beginning?

These prompts are just the beginning of your transformation. If you’re serious about building a new mindset and creating lasting change, the New Beginnings 30-Day Mindset Journal is your next step.

This isn’t just a journal—it’s a sacred space for healing, renewal, and realignment. Packed with daily prompts, reflections, and affirmations, it’s designed to help you reset your focus, rewrite your story, and walk boldly into the healthiest, most empowered version of you.

👉🏽 Grab your copy today and start your journey to a new beginning—mind, body, and soul.

Friday Reflections: You Can’t Save People Who Don’t Want to Be Saved

There was a time when I believed that if I just loved people hard enough, prayed for them long enough, showed up consistently enough… they’d change.

But here’s the hard truth I had to learn:

👉🏽 You can’t save people who don’t want to be saved.
👉🏽 You can’t change people who are committed to staying the same.
👉🏽 You can’t heal someone who is still defending what broke them.

Some folks are not looking for a breakthrough—they're looking for someone to bleed with them. And sis, your healing does not require you to stay stuck with someone who refuses to grow.

Yes, God calls us to love.
Yes, we should extend grace.
But love without boundaries becomes enablement, not empowerment.
And grace without discernment turns into self-abandonment.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23

God never told you to carry someone else’s rebellion. That’s not faithfulness. That’s spiritual codependency. 🙅🏽‍♀️

Now?
I pray.
I release.
I walk away in peace, knowing I am not the Savior. That position is already filled.

📝 Reflect:

• Who are you still trying to “rescue” that God already told you to release?

• What would happen if you stopped managing their chaos and started protecting your peace?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

God, give me the strength to let go of people You never asked me to carry. Help me to love without losing myself, to care without compromising, and to trust that You will finish the work in them without me playing savior. Amen.

✨ Friday Reflections: Recognizing and Responding to Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

There was a time when I confused grace with self-abandonment.

I used to excuse red flags like they were just growing pains. I told myself, “They just need time. Maybe they’re going through something. Let me extend a little more grace…” But the truth is—some patterns aren’t phases. They’re previews. Previews of what your peace will cost you if you stay too long. Previews of how your light will be dimmed trying to fit in spaces never meant for your spirit.

🚩 What I No Longer Ignore:

• People who lack empathy but expect endless grace.
  Grace doesn’t mean tolerating emotional neglect or cold-heartedness. You can forgive someone and still walk away with your dignity intact.

• People who manipulate emotions and call it honesty.
  If someone weaponizes “truth” to cut you down instead of building you up, that’s not transparency—it’s control.

• People who drain your spirit and then get offended when you protect your peace.
  Boundaries aren’t rejection. They are spiritual armor. And if your peace offends someone, they were never rooting for your healing in the first place.

Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.
—1 Corinthians 15:33

God didn’t call us to be spiritual doormats or emotional punching bags. He didn’t anoint us to be saviors in toxic relationships. He called us to be set apart—to guard our hearts, to protect what He’s healing, and to stop casting pearls before people who have no intention of valuing them.

🙏 My New Standard:

• I trust the Holy Spirit to show me what I need to see—even when it’s hard.

• I believe people the first time they show me their true nature.

• I have the courage to walk away without guilt.

• I no longer question my worth just because someone else couldn’t recognize it.

Emotional chaos, spiritual dryness, and low-vibration connections are no longer welcome in my life. I choose alignment over attachment. Purpose over pressure. Peace over people-pleasing.

💬 Let’s Reflect:

Is there a relationship in your life where you’ve been silencing the Holy Spirit’s warning signs?
Have you been confusing grace with permission to be mistreated?

Ask yourself:

• Does this relationship bring me closer to peace—or pull me into confusion?

• Am I watering a connection God has already called me to release?

🛑 It’s okay to pause. To process. To protect your healing.

Your heart is sacred ground. Not everyone deserves access. Some connections are seasonal. Some lessons come dressed as people. But your growth is non-negotiable. And your peace is priceless.

✨ You are not called to carry people who are committed to misunderstanding you. Release them with love, and walk in truth.