Friday Reflections: Discernment Will Save Your Life

Listen…
Not every opportunity is a blessing.
Not every smiling face is a friend.
Not every "good vibe" is from God.

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned—and earned through some hard falls—is this:

👉🏽 Discernment will save your life.

Discernment is God’s way of protecting you before you need protection.
It’s that quiet nudge in your spirit.
It’s the uneasiness you can’t explain.
It’s the “something ain’t right” feeling that you sometimes try to pray away but shouldn’t.

And too many times, I overrode it.
I wanted to believe the best.
I didn’t want to seem “judgmental.”
I gave people or situations the benefit of the doubt when God had already shown me everything I needed to see.

"Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God..." – 1 John 4:1

The enemy doesn’t show up wearing a red cape and horns.
He shows up wrapped in charm, opportunity, "once-in-a-lifetime" offers, and people who say all the right things but live all the wrong ways.

Discernment is your spiritual alarm system.
It will protect your peace, your destiny, and your future—if you listen.

Now?
I pray for discernment DAILY.
And not just discernment—but the courage to act on what God shows me without second-guessing it.

Because obedience to that still small voice has saved me from relationships, deals, and decisions that would’ve wrecked me.

📝 Reflect:

• Have you ever ignored a warning sign because you wanted to believe the best?

• Are you praying for discernment—and listening when God answers?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

Lord, sharpen my discernment. Help me not to override Your warnings for the sake of comfort, appearances, or fear of missing out. Give me wisdom to see what I need to see and courage to walk away when You tell me to. Amen.

Friday Reflections: Delayed Does Not Mean Denied

Let’s talk about waiting.

Waiting on healing.
Waiting on the right person.
Waiting on the business to take off.
Waiting on doors to open when you’ve knocked and prayed and fasted and cried.

Whew. Waiting will test your faith like nothing else.

There were seasons where I thought the silence meant I’d been forgotten.
But God whispered something into my spirit that changed everything:

“Delayed does not mean denied.”

Sometimes, the delay is not punishment—it’s preparation.
God will withhold certain things until your character is ready to carry them. Until your mindset is healed enough to handle them. Until your heart won’t idolize the very thing you prayed for.

“The vision is for an appointed time... Though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not delay.” – Habakkuk 2:3

If He promised it, He’s going to do it.
But He’s more concerned about who you’re becoming in the waiting than how fast you get there.

The delay is refining you.
Strengthening your faith muscles.
Teaching you patience, trust, and endurance.
Because when it comes, it’s gon’ come big. And you’ll be ready.

📝 Reflect:

• Are you calling something “denied” when it’s just delayed?

• What is God teaching you during your waiting season?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

God, help me to trust Your timing even when it doesn’t make sense. Strengthen me in the waiting. Let me not grow weary or bitter, but hopeful and expectant. I know You don’t delay without purpose. Amen.

Friday Reflections: Closure Is an Inside Job

Whew. This one took me a minute to learn.

I used to sit around waiting on people to do right. Waiting for apologies. Waiting for closure. Waiting for someone to finally say,
"You're right, I hurt you. I'm sorry."

But here's what life—and God—taught me:
Closure is an inside job.
It’s not something you get. It’s something you decide.

Because truthfully? Some people will never own their role.
They’ll rewrite history.
They’ll twist the narrative.
They’ll ghost, deflect, or deny.
And you’ll be sitting there waiting on an apology…

That’s👏🏽 Never👏🏽 Coming👏🏽.

Meanwhile, God is saying, "I need you to move forward anyway."

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” – Isaiah 43:18–19

Waiting on closure from people who broke you is like trying to fix a leak with the same water that flooded you. It don’t work like that.

Real healing starts the moment you decide that their silence won’t keep you stuck.
You forgive for you.
You heal for you.
You move on in faith—because God has more for you ahead than what they failed to give you back there.

📝 Reflect:

• Are you still waiting for someone to say sorry so you can heal?

• What if healing is your responsibility, not theirs?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

God, help me release the need for closure from people who were never meant to go with me into this next season. Let me find peace in You, validation in You, and strength to move forward even when others refuse to make it right. Amen.