Friday Reflections: Delayed Does Not Mean Denied

Let’s talk about waiting.

Waiting on healing.
Waiting on the right person.
Waiting on the business to take off.
Waiting on doors to open when you’ve knocked and prayed and fasted and cried.

Whew. Waiting will test your faith like nothing else.

There were seasons where I thought the silence meant I’d been forgotten.
But God whispered something into my spirit that changed everything:

“Delayed does not mean denied.”

Sometimes, the delay is not punishment—it’s preparation.
God will withhold certain things until your character is ready to carry them. Until your mindset is healed enough to handle them. Until your heart won’t idolize the very thing you prayed for.

“The vision is for an appointed time... Though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not delay.” – Habakkuk 2:3

If He promised it, He’s going to do it.
But He’s more concerned about who you’re becoming in the waiting than how fast you get there.

The delay is refining you.
Strengthening your faith muscles.
Teaching you patience, trust, and endurance.
Because when it comes, it’s gon’ come big. And you’ll be ready.

📝 Reflect:

• Are you calling something “denied” when it’s just delayed?

• What is God teaching you during your waiting season?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

God, help me to trust Your timing even when it doesn’t make sense. Strengthen me in the waiting. Let me not grow weary or bitter, but hopeful and expectant. I know You don’t delay without purpose. Amen.

Friday Reflections: Closure Is an Inside Job

Whew. This one took me a minute to learn.

I used to sit around waiting on people to do right. Waiting for apologies. Waiting for closure. Waiting for someone to finally say,
"You're right, I hurt you. I'm sorry."

But here's what life—and God—taught me:
Closure is an inside job.
It’s not something you get. It’s something you decide.

Because truthfully? Some people will never own their role.
They’ll rewrite history.
They’ll twist the narrative.
They’ll ghost, deflect, or deny.
And you’ll be sitting there waiting on an apology…

That’s👏🏽 Never👏🏽 Coming👏🏽.

Meanwhile, God is saying, "I need you to move forward anyway."

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” – Isaiah 43:18–19

Waiting on closure from people who broke you is like trying to fix a leak with the same water that flooded you. It don’t work like that.

Real healing starts the moment you decide that their silence won’t keep you stuck.
You forgive for you.
You heal for you.
You move on in faith—because God has more for you ahead than what they failed to give you back there.

📝 Reflect:

• Are you still waiting for someone to say sorry so you can heal?

• What if healing is your responsibility, not theirs?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

God, help me release the need for closure from people who were never meant to go with me into this next season. Let me find peace in You, validation in You, and strength to move forward even when others refuse to make it right. Amen.

Friday Reflections: You Can’t Save People Who Don’t Want to Be Saved

There was a time when I believed that if I just loved people hard enough, prayed for them long enough, showed up consistently enough… they’d change.

But here’s the hard truth I had to learn:

👉🏽 You can’t save people who don’t want to be saved.
👉🏽 You can’t change people who are committed to staying the same.
👉🏽 You can’t heal someone who is still defending what broke them.

Some folks are not looking for a breakthrough—they're looking for someone to bleed with them. And sis, your healing does not require you to stay stuck with someone who refuses to grow.

Yes, God calls us to love.
Yes, we should extend grace.
But love without boundaries becomes enablement, not empowerment.
And grace without discernment turns into self-abandonment.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23

God never told you to carry someone else’s rebellion. That’s not faithfulness. That’s spiritual codependency. 🙅🏽‍♀️

Now?
I pray.
I release.
I walk away in peace, knowing I am not the Savior. That position is already filled.

📝 Reflect:

• Who are you still trying to “rescue” that God already told you to release?

• What would happen if you stopped managing their chaos and started protecting your peace?

🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:

God, give me the strength to let go of people You never asked me to carry. Help me to love without losing myself, to care without compromising, and to trust that You will finish the work in them without me playing savior. Amen.