The List I Had to Create After Heartbreak Taught Me Self-Respect
I did not create “the list” because I wanted to be difficult.
I created the list because heartbreak taught me that access to me needed standards.
Not walls. Not bitterness. Not revenge. Standards.
There is a difference.
For a long time, I thought being loving meant giving people unlimited chances to hurt me. I thought being spiritual meant accepting behavior that broke my heart. I thought being loyal meant staying connected to people who were careless with my spirit.
Divorce Didn’t Destroy Me — It Revealed Me
There are seasons in life that don’t just hurt you.
They strip you.
They pull away the comfort, the illusion, the routine, the version of life you thought you were building, and they leave you standing there asking:
“Who am I now?”
Divorce was one of those seasons for me.
And let me tell you something honestly — divorce is not just the end of a marriage.
When God Calls You to Slow Down, It’s Not Punishment — It’s Protection
2026 is your invitation to stop running on empty.
To stop numbing.
To stop ignoring the whispers of your own needs.