Friday Reflections: Closure Is an Inside Job
I used to sit around waiting on people to do right. Waiting for apologies. Waiting for closure. Waiting for someone to finally say,
"You're right, I hurt you. I'm sorry."
Whew. This one took me a minute to learn.
I used to sit around waiting on people to do right. Waiting for apologies. Waiting for closure. Waiting for someone to finally say,
"You're right, I hurt you. I'm sorry."
But here's what life—and God—taught me:
Closure is an inside job.
It’s not something you get. It’s something you decide.
Because truthfully? Some people will never own their role.
They’ll rewrite history.
They’ll twist the narrative.
They’ll ghost, deflect, or deny.
And you’ll be sitting there waiting on an apology…
That’s👏🏽 Never👏🏽 Coming👏🏽.
Meanwhile, God is saying, "I need you to move forward anyway."
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” – Isaiah 43:18–19
Waiting on closure from people who broke you is like trying to fix a leak with the same water that flooded you. It don’t work like that.
Real healing starts the moment you decide that their silence won’t keep you stuck.
You forgive for you.
You heal for you.
You move on in faith—because God has more for you ahead than what they failed to give you back there.
📝 Reflect:
Are you still waiting for someone to say sorry so you can heal?
What if healing is your responsibility, not theirs?
🙏🏽 A Short Prayer:
God, help me release the need for closure from people who were never meant to go with me into this next season. Let me find peace in You, validation in You, and strength to move forward even when others refuse to make it right. Amen.